Skillful Action — Data over Drama
When something hurtful happens to us, we can get triggered into wounds we have not healed yet. It can bring us back to that moment, age and stage where the original wounding happened and then if we are not aware of it we can act out of that place and space and age. This can make our reaction not match the current data that triggered us. And no matter how much the current trigger is explained or offered to be healed when we find ourselves in fight, flight, fawn, or freeze part of our lower brain it can keep us from taking in new information or healing.
So what do we do?
We can slow down and feel our feelings first. Become conscious of the big fear that was triggered and why?
Notice the sensation--where is it stored in the body? What emotions need to be released? What memories healed? When do you recall the first time you felt this?
Witnessing the emotions, memories, fears, ages and stages that arise within the body can help them release. You do not need to know much of the memories-you can simply sit with what is and default to the Higher Self to pinpoint them--that part of you that never dies and can see the whole and will give you the answers as you need them not before.
Recognize we do not need to be stuck in the drama cycle, trauma loop, or unconscious memory and emotion that is pressing into our present moment. OUr triggers are our invitations to slow down, become curious and compassionate with self and others, and discover why they are there--what is needing to heal so that we can step more fully forward wholly and complete as we are in the moment.
Then ask before you speak, respond or act--is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? Is it the right timing? If you receive a no then pause, reflect and heal further and trust that you will know when you need to take skillful action.
Staying with the data can help. Healing the drama around the data helps you see more clearly what skillful action is needed. Sometimes data over drama helps us move through painful moments without creating more harm to ourselves or others.
Try it and drop a note around how it worked for you.
